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Is there an ultimate thing that would make you the happiest person in the world? I think we all have at least one thing we badly want to get. It could be popularity, power, friends, love, money, lasting marriage, children, or health. But unfortunately, not all of us successfully obtain even just that one thing though we may live up to 85 years.
Well, it is simply because most people do not set goals. However, even if we do, it does not guarantee achievement and success. You have to do things the right way. You need to pay the price. Anything great necessitates hard work. But in this article, we will discuss the not-so ideal things that make you fail and not reach your goals. Setting goals that are too big. Goals bigger than you may just leave you exhausted but not victorious.
Goals that are too big are those beyond your skills, knowledge, and capabilities, or even beyond your control and influence. You need to assess yourself, the things you know, the things you are good at and base your goals from them. Measure your capabilities. Do not set goals that seem impossible to achieve. Setting goals that are too small. Setting goals that are too small does not challenge you enough which consequently makes you think those goals are not worth pursuing.
Make sure your goals are not too easy otherwise you will not feel a sense of fulfillment and not be proud of reaching them.
Setting goals that are vague. Describe your goals. Be specific. Do not settle with goals that are too general. Detailed goals make you half-way there since they create a map for your subconscious mind; and you just need follow that map. Too many people skip this evaluation step and end up pursuing the goal that looks coolest, rather than the goal which is most important.
This may work for a short while but eventually you lose motivation for anything which is not really important and so the goal remains unachieved. You can become so caught up in the day to day grind required to achieve the goal that you forget the reason that you set the goal in the first place. On the first coaching course that I ever attended, it was hammered into us that we should never ask someone why they wanted to achieve a goal.
Over time, I came to realise that this approach was a load of nonsense. Knowing why you want to achieve something is the most fundamental form of motivation. On those mornings that you are struggling to get out of bed and get started; you can visualise yourself upon completion of the goal. This is usually enough to kick start your engine and get you going. Once you have set a goal, write down every possible benefit that you will experience upon completion of the goal. Ask yourself why you want to make this change and answer it as honestly as possible.
This list should always be kept close to hand. At least once per week, you can read the list and remind yourself of the reasons that you are pursuing this goal. Keeping a written statement of why you want to achieve your goal keeps that initial excitement with you to push you forward. You may wonder how this applies to goal planning but there are 2 ways in which doing too much can impact on your ability to reach your goals.
Rather than get a lot done on a small number of goals, you will be getting a small amount done on a lot of goals.
The end result will be burnout, stress and a no results worth talking about. It is best to focus on a small number of goals and, as you reach one goal, add another in its place.
The second problem with taking too much on is that you get bogged down working on tasks that you are not particularly good at. Most goals will require the completion of many tasks.
It is unlikely that you will be talented at each task. One study conducted by Dominican University looked at the effectiveness of writing down goals. The research found that people who wrote down their goals achieved more than those who did not. People who wrote down their goals and sent a weekly progress report to a friend accomplished the most of all. Find an accountability buddy, seek out a support group, or hire a coach with whom you can have regular check-ins.
Obsessively focusing on designing goals that are specific and measurable can keep you stuck and make you frustrated. You just need to know the very next step to take in order to move forward. A positive attitude is often touted as the key to goal achievement, when in fact, a healthy dose of pessimism is needed to get ahead. A certain type of negative thinking, known as defensive pessimism, can actually be beneficial. Vividly imagining challenges can help you strategize and creatively problem solve.
In fact, you may have felt let down or a sense of disillusionment. This phenomenon, commonly known as the arrival fallacy , happens because working towards a goal triggers a rush of feel-good dopamine in your brain. Once you reach the goal, dopamine levels drop, which can leave you feeling empty.
Before moving on to the next thing, celebrate your achievements. Reflect on what went well.
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